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      Quote Originally Posted by Midnight Sparkle View Post
      Thanks...Man I feel stupid right now. *sighs*
      Um, and I failed two years in a row on the uni. So? I admit, I never had my heart broken (mainly because I never fell in love with anyone) so I don't know how bad it feels... but I'm assuming it feels really bad.

      The point is, I was geeky and curious enough to study how our brains process emotions and what to do to make it easier to be happy. The thing is: instead of comparing yourself (your good/bad fortune, your skills, your wealth) to others, you should compare yourself to your past self -- and then give yourself small goals every day, and achieve them - and then constantly make comparisons ("Earlier this day, this house was dirty, but now it is clean!", "Earlier this day, I sucked at this song, but now I know the lyrics by heart!" "Earlier this day,...")

      "A person can get used to everything" -- this is both good and bad. Just as we can get used to bad stuff, we can get used to good stuff and we don't notice it anymore. A person who won the lottery won't feel happy for long, unless he will constantly aquire new things with that money -- and then there is the problem that people suck at determining what they like, so he may end up spending a lot of cash on worthless crap, and also material wealth can feel empty in the long run... and there's the matter of winning the lottery in the first place -- too improbable to count on it.

      Our minds evolved in order to help with our survival in the wilderness (when we were still cavemen) and because of that, aquiring new skills, and achieving things that require effort makes us happy the most. If you give yourself every day meaningful (but ACHIEVABLE) tasks, and finish them consistently, satistfaction will kick in.

      The key is to not to go overboard on the first day and give yourself too much to do. (Many people who want to lose weight for example do the stupid thing and go for half-hour jogs after years of lack of exercise -- oh, btw, I really recommend exercise. When you do it every day you will feel a lot better -- recommened regardless if you want to have a sports-related career or not)

      Think what you want to achieve -- be a better writer? Write one page of text a day, everyday. If you manage to keep it up for a week or two without a fail, go for more pages -- and only increase the difficulty when you consider the previous stage too easy/not challenging enough.

      Bit by bit. Writing? Start writing page a day. One story/poem a day. Exercise? Twenty sit-ups a day, at a set hour. Too easy? Start with more -- the thing is that you must consistently give yourself small challenges, and win them. When you consistently make yourself promises ("I will do X today!") -- and then KEEP those promises ("Yes! I said I would do X and I did!") it really helps. Constantly compare yourself to yourself from a near past.

      Don't be like "I promise myself I will do 1000 squats today!" and then be "Aww, I did only 121 squats before my knees gave up" at the end of the day. Give yourself small promises often, and then keep keeping those promises.

      I do this every day and it really helps.

      I REALLY recommend reading those. They helped me a lot:
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      ...or, what the hell, have this too: 4#

      Remember: whenever you have a large task in front of you, cut it. Still to big? Cut it. Still? Cut. Cut the big task until you can start doing one of its pieces RIGHT NOW.

      Like reading... if you have to read something (like above advice) but aren't in a mood, then just say to yourself "I will just read this paragraph and I'm done", and then check if you want to continue reading AFTER you read it.
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      Quote Originally Posted by Grassy Tale View Post
      Um, and I failed two years in a row on the uni. So? I admit, I never had my heart broken (mainly because I never fell in love with anyone) so I don't know how bad it feels... but I'm assuming it feels really bad.

      The point is, I was geeky and curious enough to study how our brains process emotions and what to do to make it easier to be happy. The thing is: instead of comparing yourself (your good/bad fortune, your skills, your wealth) to others, you should compare yourself to your past self -- and then give yourself small goals every day, and achieve them - and then constantly make comparisons ("Earlier this day, this house was dirty, but now it is clean!", "Earlier this day, I sucked at this song, but now I know the lyrics by heart!" "Earlier this day,...")

      "A person can get used to everything" -- this is both good and bad. Just as we can get used to bad stuff, we can get used to good stuff and we don't notice it anymore. A person who won the lottery won't feel happy for long, unless he will constantly aquire new things with that money -- and then there is the problem that people suck at determining what they like, so he may end up spending a lot of cash on worthless crap, and also material wealth can feel empty in the long run... and there's the matter of winning the lottery in the first place -- too improbable to count on it.

      Our minds evolved in order to help with our survival in the wilderness (when we were still cavemen) and because of that, aquiring new skills, and achieving things that require effort makes us happy the most. If you give yourself every day meaningful (but ACHIEVABLE) tasks, and finish them consistently, satistfaction will kick in.

      The key is to not to go overboard on the first day and give yourself too much to do. (Many people who want to lose weight for example do the stupid thing and go for half-hour jogs after years of lack of exercise -- oh, btw, I really recommend exercise. When you do it every day you will feel a lot better -- recommened regardless if you want to have a sports-related career or not)

      Think what you want to achieve -- be a better writer? Write one page of text a day, everyday. If you manage to keep it up for a week or two without a fail, go for more pages -- and only increase the difficulty when you consider the previous stage too easy/not challenging enough.

      Bit by bit. Writing? Start writing page a day. One story/poem a day. Exercise? Twenty sit-ups a day, at a set hour. Too easy? Start with more -- the thing is that you must consistently give yourself small challenges, and win them. When you consistently make yourself promises ("I will do X today!") -- and then KEEP those promises ("Yes! I said I would do X and I did!") it really helps. Constantly compare yourself to yourself from a near past.

      Don't be like "I promise myself I will do 1000 squats today!" and then be "Aww, I did only 121 squats before my knees gave up" at the end of the day. Give yourself small promises often, and then keep keeping those promises.

      I do this every day and it really helps.

      I REALLY recommend reading those. They helped me a lot:
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      3#

      ...or, what the hell, have this too: 4#

      Remember: whenever you have a large task in front of you, cut it. Still to big? Cut it. Still? Cut. Cut the big task until you can start doing one of its pieces RIGHT NOW.

      Like reading... if you have to read something (like above advice) but aren't in a mood, then just say to yourself "I will just read this paragraph and I'm done", and then check if you want to continue reading AFTER you read it.
      Such a long post, but thanks :smile:. I will try, I am tempted to start writing my story again but I dunno.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Midnight Sparkle View Post
      Such a long post, but thanks :smile:. I will try, I am tempted to start writing my story again but I dunno.
      Don't start. Finish. Think of a story that you can finish in a matter of minutes (or tens of minutes).

      Nothing motivates like success - and it is best to start with something you just KNOW you will succeed at.

      Decide for a start to write one short (or several very short) stories a day - your choice, just be consistent - and when you get more confident with writing, THEN try writing longer ones -- but don't increase the length too dramatically.

      Promising oneself to do too much from the start and then breaking one's promise can discourage you from future attempts to improve yourself.

      Do it right now. "I am going to spend the next 15 minutes writing a FINISHED short-short story".

      And when you finish, realize that big projects are made of many small parts, and since you already succeeded at doing this one small part, you just have to repeat doing it, and you will end up suceeding at a bigger thing.

      Think only about the immediate tasks you have to take care of. If you look too far into the future, you will get discouraged.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Grassy Tale View Post
      Don't start. Finish. Think of a story that you can finish in a matter of minutes (or tens of minutes).

      Nothing motivates like success - and it is best to start with something you just KNOW you will succeed at.

      Decide for a start to write one short (or several very short) stories a day - your choice, just be consistent - and when you get more confident with writing, THEN try writing longer ones -- but don't increase the length too dramatically.

      Promising oneself to do too much from the start and then breaking one's promise can discourage you from future attempts to improve yourself.

      Do it right now. "I am going to spend the next 15 minutes writing a FINISHED short-short story".

      And when you finish, realize that big projects are made of many small parts, and since you already succeeded at doing this one small part, you just have to repeat doing it, and you will end up suceeding at a bigger thing.

      Think only about the immediate tasks you have to take care of. If you look too far into the future, you will get discouraged.
      O-oh, um okay. Thanks

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      Quote Originally Posted by Midnight Sparkle View Post
      O-oh, um okay. Thanks
      No problem.

      And exercise! And you don't have to do anything crazy either (wait! DO crazy stuff -- it's more fun that way!)

      If you don't want to do squats or push-ups or yadda-yadda-yadda, ten just walk -- or DAAAAAAANCEEEEEE~ -- whenever you listen to a song you like! You have no idea how good moving FEELS! It's like leveling up! At first you are tired when you do simplest stuff, but after a while of moving Moving MOVING E-VERY-DAE you suddenly notice you get tired no more and you have more energy to do fun stuff and you look back at your old self and think "Whoa! I just leveled-up in real life! Just like in a game! But for realz! THAT IS SOO AWESOMEEEEEEE~!"


      Seriously. Put stuff like this into your routine -- just like brushing teeth. Once a day twenty squats (or how many you think are okay with you). Over time slowly increase that number when you find that doing this every day is easy. Just like Pinks said: satisfaction is just like a level-up in a computer RPG, but more, because it is YOU that leveled up (dunno if you're a geek for anything, but this would help -- you get a really cool geeky satisfaction when you realize you basically pulled in-game stuff into the real world :3)

      MEEEEEE SOOOO GEEEEKY~!!!

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      Quote Originally Posted by Grassy Tale View Post
      No problem.

      And exercise! And you don't have to do anything crazy either (wait! DO crazy stuff -- it's more fun that way!)

      If you don't want to do squats or push-ups or yadda-yadda-yadda, ten just walk -- or DAAAAAAANCEEEEEE~ -- whenever you listen to a song you like! You have no idea how good moving FEELS! It's like leveling up! At first you are tired when you do simplest stuff, but after a while of moving Moving MOVING E-VERY-DAE you suddenly notice you get tired no more and you have more energy to do fun stuff and you look back at your old self and think "Whoa! I just leveled-up in real life! Just like in a game! But for realz! THAT IS SOO AWESOMEEEEEEE~!"


      Seriously. Put stuff like this into your routine -- just like brushing teeth. Once a day twenty squats (or how many you think are okay with you). Over time slowly increase that number when you find that doing this every day is easy. Just like Pinks said: satisfaction is just like a level-up in a computer RPG, but more, because it is YOU that leveled up (dunno if you're a geek for anything, but this would help -- you get a really cool geeky satisfaction when you realize you basically pulled in-game stuff into the real world :3)

      MEEEEEE SOOOO GEEEEKY~!!!
      Thanks you two, heh. *smiles a bit* I will do that.

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      Wow, it has been ages since I have been here. I kinda wanna start it back up. Doubtful it will get many views but if anyone has any questions for the NEW Midnight Sparkle, you can ask away. Jeez, I forgot all the talk I had with Grassy and Pinkie.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Midnight Sparkle View Post
      but if anyone has any questions for the NEW Midnight Sparkle,
      What is different between the NEW Midnight Sparkle and the OLD Midnight Sparkle?

      Ooh! Do you have a more active formula for removing annoying stains?? Or do you have an extra razor? Or do I get a free toy with every purchase or--

      He's a person, not an object, Pinkie.

      ...isn't Midnight a SHE?

      Yes, I was just temporarily refering to Jeremy by his username, rather than by his name.

      *turns to J and Mid* Oh by the way: hi Midnight, hi Jeremy! How are you guys doin'??

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      Quote Originally Posted by Grassy Tale View Post
      What is different between the NEW Midnight Sparkle and the OLD Midnight Sparkle?

      Ooh! Do you have a more active formula for removing annoying stains?? Or do you have an extra razor? Or do I get a free toy with every purchase or--

      He's a person, not an object, Pinkie.

      ...isn't Midnight a SHE?

      Yes, I was just temporarily refering to Jeremy by his username, rather than by his name.

      *turns to J and Mid* Oh by the way: hi Midnight, hi Jeremy! How are you guys doin'??
      Well then, that was rather quick wasn't it? WELL If I should explain what is up with the "New" Middy. I will start wi-I'll take care of that thank you very much!

      Hey! No reason to be so rude!

      *Ignores the college student and looks to Pinkie* Magic accident if you would care to explain it that way. I am just a unicorn, and a few other things have changed as well. Precisely...the uh...f-female bit. Sometimes it just changes. Kind of odd really.

      And we are fine honestly.

      Mhm!

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      Did you ever eat something that was SUPPOSED to be tasty/fancy/exotic ... but in the end just made you puke?

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